Anal sex is not just for gay men and not all gay men do it in the butt, but most gay men will have butt sex sometime in their life.
Anal sex is not just about pleasing the top, your anus and rectum have tons of nerve endings and pleasure from anal sex can come from simple penetration and/or the stimulation of the prostate gland.
Taking care of your butt is an important part of taking control of your overall health but it is not always easy to talk about with your doctor about your ass. As gay men we need a doctor we can talk to about anything especially your sex life and your ass. Your doctor need to understand the health concerns that are unique to gay men. If you do not have a doctor that you can be honest with the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association can help. Now back to your butt…
Anal hygiene is important but you should not use enemas (douche) as flooding your rectum with water can dehydrate your colon, making you more likely to get an infection. To be as safe and clean as possible, you should first, wipe your ass with a moist cloth to clean the outside, avoid eating a few hours before anal sex to help ensure your bowels are empty, and then before bottoming, fill an ear syringe with warm water and gently squeeze the water into your rectum, learning out any feces that may be lingering.One of the most important factors in caring for your anus and enjoying butt sex is getting to know your body. Before bottoming you should really know your ass well. Spend time exploring the sensitivity of your sphincter muscle (the muscle that controls the opening and closing of your anus) and how it reacts to being penetrated, when and how it relaxes and when it tenses up. Playing with your sphincter muscle can be fun alone or with a partner. This form of butt play can be something you can both enjoy prior to anal penetration (rimming can be a great way to start). Once you know your ass well, anal sex will be smoother and more pleasurable for both you and your partner.
It is important to communicate and to stop if you feel uncomfortable, experience pain or have any bleeding. Try different positions, a position where your knees are bent and drawn to your chest (on your back, chest, doggy style, etc.) will straighten out the anal canal and make penetration easier.
RELAX, breathe deep, take your time, and make sure you are comfortable physically and emotionally, as hot as it may seem to get pounded, remember, fantasy and reality can often be vastly different.
The more you care for and know your butt, the better your anal sex will be.