One of the advantages of using Adam4Adam is the ability to learn about a potential sex partner without much effort. Knowing what a guy is into, what he looks like, where he is located and if he is a sexual match can happen quickly because of the information in a profile.
There are also personal risks when you depend solely on the information men provide in a profile. When hooking up it is a dangerous idea to assume that what you see is what you get. Some information that may not be accurate can put you at real risk.
There are outright lies (such as dick size, age, and yes, even HIV status) and then there are statements such as ‘D&D Free’, that are usually not intended to be a lie, but are vague assumptions regarding an individual’s health.
Staying drug and disease free is an achievable goal. But there are some real problems with efforts to stay ‘healthy’ that depend on claims like D&D free. When I see statements like this I wonder why men even bother. Is this an attempt to avoid having a conversation about drugs, HIV and STDs? Does putting D&D free U B 2 in a profile help these guys to feel guilt free, as if they are ‘being safe’ and finding ‘safe’ men to have sex with just by making unsupported ascertains about their health?
Don’t get me wrong, I believe that all consenting adults have the right to have sex in whatever way they want, with whoever they want (Bareback included). What I have a problem with is vague messages, like “HIV- U B 2” or ‘D&D Free’ when they are used as a the method of self-promotion and sexual risk reduction. How does one truly know that they are D&D free? If you are getting tested regularly and have negative results does that mean you are D&D free right now? Do those that post D&D free understand what it means to be tested? Do they know what a negative test means? Are they really tested for all STDs as well?
It is important to remember that we cannot assume that we or anyone else is truly D&D free just because it says so in a profile. Staying healthy is not about assumptions, and not even about having sex with HIV- men only. Staying healthy is the result of getting tested being clear of what we will and will not do sexually in our profile and talking to your partners about drug use, HIV and STDs.
Sticking to your standards (using a condom every time, not at all, under certain conditions, etc.) is about saying what you mean and saying it clearly. Saying it in your profile can help weed out mismatched partners and help you to stay healthy according to your own standards of what healthy means to you.