There are many motivations for having sex. Some people have sex because they believe that if they keep trying they will meet the man of their dreams, others feel disconnected and are looking for a connection to other men, while others simply have sex because it feels good. Maybe we have all experienced each of these and more at different times in our life, I know I have.
No matter why you have sex, there will always be some type of outcome from your having sex.
I know in my life there have been times when I have been desperately lonely and could not get enough sex to change my feelings while at other times I could care less about sex, and even on occasion (especially when I was a tad younger) I have just been so horny that there was no conscious reason to have sex other than just to get off.
There are tons of resources regarding gay men and physical health, especially regarding STDs and HIV. There is even a great blog by Jim Pickett and LifeLube that asks gay men “How Are You Healthy”. But there is very little that is readily available on the internet that talks about gay sex and emotional health outside of the context of STDs and HIV.
Since this blog is about having conversations, rather than me telling you how you should, can, might have a healthy emotional life regarding your sexual practices, I thought I would ask you what you think.
So have at it and let’s discover each other’s views:
What does emotional health look like for gay men in regards to sex?
How do / can we have sex in an emotionally healthy way?