Cuming too soon can be embarrassing and cause problems in relationships. It is a common problem and there are lots of “cures” out there, most of which are useless.
The first step in solving any problem is to understand the problem. So lets start by looking at what may cause premature ejaculation.
First, what defines premature ejaculation? Exactly how quickly do you need to cum to be considered a premature ejaculator? Well, in heterosexual relationships most men would be considered premature ejaculators by women as most men cum pretty quickly and women take at least 15 minutes or so to reach orgasm. Medically speaking premature ejaculation occurs when a man has an orgasm sooner during intercourse than he or his partner wishes.
Ideally we would be able to last as long as we want without having an orgasm while having sex.
Premature ejaculation is most common among younger men. This fact hints that inexperience, anxiety, and a lack of self awareness have an effect on premature ejaculation. Inexperience causes problem when you have not learned to recognize the feeling when you are about to cum. Physical causes of premature ejaculation are difficult to determine as there are usually no abnormal findings with the condition.
There are generally three stages a man goes through before reaching orgasm. Arousal when you start to get hard, intense excitement during sex and before orgasm, and the point of no return, when you are unable to control your orgasm.
The goal of any treatment for premature ejaculation is to prolong stage two, the intense excitement during sex.
There are many things one can do to help treat premature ejaculation.
Generally speaking the road to a happier sex life that is free from premature ejaculation is paved with practice and honest communication. Open communication with your partners, and exploration and a willingness to try a variety of approaches to sex may help both partners feel satisfied and help reduce conflict and performance anxiety. If you’re not satisfied with your sexual relationship, talk with your partner about your concerns. Approach the topic in a loving way and avoid any blame and or shame.
If you’re not able to resolve your sexual problems on your own, talk with your doctor. He or she may be able to help.