Once upon a time, back in 1990, a young HIV positive man met a guy and instantly fell in love for him. But his new partner was HIV negative….
That was 24 years ago for Steve and Danny…. Steve found out he was HIV positive 2 years prior to their meeting. Danny was 23 at the time and just looking for a good time while on vacation. What he found was the love of his life.
I met them recently and wanted to find out what makes a serodiscordant couple work for 24 years. Their main goal is keeping each other healthy, Steve wants to do all he can to not pass HIV to Danny, which means sometimes having to stop when things start to heat up. Danny makes sure Steve stays healthy through diet, exercise and keeping up on treatment options.
Their relationship is mostly oral but at times Steve fucks Danny with a condom. They told me they are still concerned about transmission which is why Danny gets tested twice a year. I asked them about the new preventative therapy using Truvada, they told me they were interested in knowing more but wanted to wait until more testing was done.
I asked them if their families knew about Steve’s HIV status. Steve’s mother knows and he assumes his siblings know but it isn’t a subject of conversation. Danny told me his family doesn’t know for many reasons, one being he didn’t want his mother to worry about him.
They told me they feel very lucky that Steve hasn’t had any opportunistic infections and has been very healthy.
What about you? Are you in a serodiscordant relationship? What are your biggest challenges?
g skorich aka eastvalleyoral