I receive lot’s of email from you guys and I always read all of them (except the hate ones)….But when I get a email like the one I received from Jess (aka Frostx on A4A), it brightens my day! That is why I decided to feature him as the Member Of The Week! I love his attitude, and I admire him for his look and how his independence goes beyond social boundaries.
I have a lot of friends like him around me. From straight guys to fag hags, to drag queens and transsexuals – to feminine guys or muscle jocks and chubby guys, from asians to blacks..really all types, sizes and colors…but they all have one similarity: They are who they are and they don’t judge a book by its cover. I eliminated all the fake and negative people around me, because they drain me. I don’t like people who don’t accept others. Sometimes different people can bring you so much: culture, different point of views, love, true friendship etc.
As the gay community, we need to learn to love each other and accept that we are all different. If we don’t accept each other, who will? I hear some of you say “He is a man he should dress and act like a man!” To this I say “who the fuck are you?” We all can be whoever we want to be, nobody needs you to tell them who they should be, how they should dress, how masculine they should be… If you are not attracted to butch guys with a beard, well don’t date guys with a beard and if a guy is too fem for you, just don’t fuck with these guys…But don’t send them hate emails or laugh at them when they walk beside you in the gay village! Cause you know what? YOU are the moron if this is what you are doing, YOU are the one who acts like a kid!
Ahhh it feels good to say things like that to defend my people
Here is what Jess had to say:
“I would just like to start by saying that more than anything, I just want to promote acceptance among the gay community! I definitely love and embrace everyone’s right to be opinionated, but I am very disgusted by all of the gay-on-gay bashing that I see among peers. I saw a comment made about someone’s profile, stating that “men are not suppose to shave.” We are all HUMANS with the freedom to look and feel as we please and we cry so much about straight people not accepting us falling in love with the same sex, when we cannot even completely accept one another for who we are.
I’m so sorry to go on, but long story short, the word I’d use to describe myself is free. I am only 20 years old, but I have completely come to terms with loving myself and embracing my look. My style is definitely very androgynous and provocative and, as an aspiring novelist and artist, I just like to stir shit up and get people talking. I always say, the objective in life isn’t to make everyone love or hate you, but to remember you in a positive way. Ultimately, I think people will remember me as being fearless.
I always explain to people that the point of my fashion is not to “look like a woman” or dress in drag. I just believe in crossing lines and breaking boundaries, but I absolutely love men’s fashion. Most everything that I wear (despite the outcome) comes from men’s stores and then I just spice it up with something from the women’s section to give it a glamorous edge. Who says men can’t wear fishnets and pearls and still be proud of being a MAN?
After all, it is always sweet to get straight, jacked jocks to look at you with lingering eyes. 😉 At the moment, I am looking for men who can inspire me artistically, whether through creative collaborations, sweet romance, or passionate, invigorating sex. Which brings me to yet another point, I am still young so don’t shoot me if I am not looking for someone to get married to right now! Sometimes, a pretty guy just needs a hard man to have some ass-slapping fun with.”
To be featured as the Member Of The Week, email me at blog at adam4adam.com with a short description of you, 3 pictures and few words on who you are!