Many guys on A4A are looking for something more than sex. They are looking for THE person to share with, their lover, their life partner…. I know it is not easy in the gay community to find someone that is serious. In this blog post I’ll suggest 5 questions to ask your date to get to know him.
First question is : What are you looking for in a relationship?
Most guys will probably say that first they are “looking to have fun” and for “something casual” and then if there is a chemistry they will want to go further with the person. Usually when a guy answers this question right in front of you, he will be honest in his intentions or you will feel it. Then, based on his answer, you will be able to evaluate if he matches what YOU are looking for. If it does,”Yay” but if it doesn’t, there will be someone else around the corner for you.
Second question : What does your Saturday morning look like?
With this question, it will give you indications of his habits outside of work. Is he an early bird who likes to go to the gym or go for a run before the city wakes up? If you like to stay in bed all day and play “Angry Birds” on your iPad, let’s just say it might be more difficult for you guys to find common interests and maybe there is less compatibility.
Third question : What’s your most embarrassing moment?
This question will give you an indication on his sense of humour. Opening up with YOUR most embarrassing moment will encourage him to tell his and he will be more comfortable to do so. Think about something embarrassing but cute at the same time….something that will make him laugh but would still show your confidence.
Fourth question : What about my profile made you want to write to me?
Is it your sexy photos? What’s written in your profile? A combination of both? You will also get to see if he is comfortable receiving and giving compliments and FYI giving and receiving is a good indicator of real relationship readiness so pay attention to what he is saying.
Fifth question : Are you close to your family?
This question is a tricky one because many gay guys have families that are not supportive of their sexual orientation. By asking this question, you will get to know if it is the case with him. Or he might be very close to his family and having dinner with them every Sunday night. Family values are important for many people, so this simple question will give you the indication if family is important for him or not.
So, of course these questions are not to be asked like a list of questions A4A blog told you to ask. Sprinkle them over a conversation and make them flow like you are just asking questions casually to get to know him. Telling him “Hi. What’s your most embarrassing moment?” will probably not going to give the result you would expect, so be wise and don’t be too stiff about it.
So now, make sure your A4A profile shows what you are looking for. If you are looking to date, maybe you could hide the picture of your ass or the closeup of the head of your dick. Maybe a nice picture of your face showing a smile would be great. Also, you could write a little text that tells what you are looking for. Updating your profile with new photos and new text shows that you are serious in what you are looking for.
Alright guys? Let me know what you think about it and let me know if it works!