You are on A4A and you talk to Mr. Right Now. He tells you he can’t host so you give him your address and he says he’ll be over in 15 minutes. You go about your business and get ready, 20 minutes go by and nothing, another 30 minutes go by and nothing. Finally you realize he is a no show.
Next time you are on A4A and talking to another Mr. Right Now, you decide to meet at a public place, you get there at the appointed time and you wait and wait and wait. A no show again.
Your first reaction is to look at yourself and think “what’s wrong with me?” There is nothing wrong with you. It’s men, it’s us, and it’s them. Now, most of us have been on both sides of this, so ask yourself: why was I a no show?
There are many reasons, train delay, cat died, got murdered on the way over, many reasons but the real one is often: chickened out. Now in most instances I have given the guy my number so he can text in case something comes up but instead of calling or texting he would rather look like a jerk. Worst part is when you go back online and try to ask him why, he ignores you or blocks you, like you did anything except clean yourself out!!
I believe some of these guys have no intention of showing up at all, for whatever reason they go through the motions but don’t follow through. I also blame the guys who post fake pictures and have fake stats. Guys have become shell-shocked when what is being offered is not what is being served.
No shows are going to happen. I don’t think there is any way around it. One solution that members of A4A suggested is to add a rating system on profiles. Something that lets others know if the person is for real or not. Imagine, after a hook up, you could go to his profile and give him a gold star or flag him as a no show.
Thoughts or comments?
g skorich aka eastvalleyoral