We take things for granted when we live in a big city with a large gay population. We assume everyone is open to our lifestyle. Gay bashings and hate crimes don’t only happen in rural places where people are less educated and less tolerant.
Just because you are in the middle of Boystown, WEHO, the Village, Earls Court or wherever, doesn’t mean you are immune from attack. Gay bashings can happen anywhere but some can also be avoided.
It’s 1 AM at the latest hot spot and you decide to head home. You get outside and it’s a nice night so you decide to walk home. You walk a few blocks and a car full of guys drives by and yells FAG, what do you do? Unless you have act up walking with you, I would suggest nothing. What happens if you yell something back like “FUCK OFF” and they turn around? Are you ready to get your ass kicked?
How about this, you and your new lover are in a different part of town having dinner at some new trendy spot. You finish up and are waiting for a cab outside the restaurant. You lean in and give each other a kiss and a pat on the ass. Nothing out of the normal in Gay Central. Some punks are walking by and catch your act, they come up to you and start harassing you, are you prepared?
I am not saying don’t be yourself or deny who you are, I am saying be aware of your surroundings and act accordingly. You against 5 guys on a street corner doesn’t make sense.
Always be prepared for the unexpected.
g skorich aka eastvalleyoral
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