When did saying “not interested” or “not my type” become a hate crime? Some guys assume just because they tag someone, that person should automatically fall to their knees in love.
Let’s say you are on A4A looking around for Mr. Right Now. You get a message from someone. You look at his profile and for whatever reason you decide he isn’t a match. You respond with a “Thank You, but not a match”. That should be the end of it right?
You get a message from the guy asking you why you aren’t a match. You decide not to answer but the emails keep coming. He tells you what you have written in your profile and he is into the same stuff. He tells you your age requirement and that he fits it. He goes on to tell you what a nice guy he is and that you are making a mistake.
You are about to answer him and tell him you just aren’t into him when the hate mail starts. He tells you that you aren’t all that and your pics are probably fake, etc…..
What it boils down to is this: it’s your choice who you hook up with. No one else’s. If you don’t want to hook up with someone for whatever reason, you don’t have to. There are ways of saying no that aren’t hateful. If you don’t like white guys, you don’t have to hook up with one. That’s your preference. The guys that are being turned down need to relax and learn to take no for an answer. No one hates you, they just aren’t into you.
g skorich AKA eastvalleyoral