Does everyone in your family know you are gay and its all good or do they know and no one wants to talk about it? A friend of mine has been with his boyfriend for 7 or 8 years and was recently confronted with this.
The boyfriend’s family has a cabin they use a lot in the summer. On this weekend a cousin who hasn’t been around in a while came to up for a visit. Sitting around getting reacquainted the cousin looked at my friend and casually asked how he knew everyone.
My friend answered by saying he was his cousins partner and they had been together for the past 8 years. The cousin didn’t look too surprised and said cool.
Later that night my friend was cornered by his boyfriend and asked him why he told his cousin they were together. My friend was confused. He told him because it was the truth and he didn’t know he was supposed to lie about it. The boyfriend told him to tell people they were roommates if anyone else asked.
It seems there is an elderly uncle who doesn’t approve of gays and their lifestyle. I guess this family doesn’t like to talk about things in an open fashion. I find this surprising considering the boyfriend had a gay brother who died of AIDS 20 years ago. How do you not mention that when people ask where he is?
Are you in a closed gay relationship and call you boyfriend your roommate or are you in an open gay relationship and don’t care who knows?
g skorich AKA eastvalley