(This post is an opinion from a member and may not reflect Adam4Adam’s opinion. Everybody is free to choose, and we are not here to judge anyone)
Recently I received a response from from a reader who went on a cruise of 2800 gay guys. On the cruise they had set up poz meetings so other HIV positive guys could hang out. He mentioned that only 5 guys showed up. That doesn’t seem right but it got me thinking.
When I lived in Chicago I use to go to this HIV party on Thursday nights. It was at a bar so I would stop after work. The first time I went there were 15 people. It didn’t get much bigger than that as time went on. There would be a few stragglers in and out but it was usually the same 15 of us. I knew there had to be more HIV positive guys in a city like Chicago.
I know a lot of guys don’t wear their status on the sleeves and I really don’t either but sometimes I feel like the only HIV positive person in the room. I think it’s this new philosophy that if you are on meds and undetectable you aren’t HIV positive…. But undetectable and negative are two different things.
The best thing to do if you need to reach out to other HIV positive guys is go to your local AIDS project and volunteer, join a group, create a group. Make friends with other HIV positive guys and keep them close. Remember, you aren’t the only HIV positive guy out there.