I was talking to a friend of mine the other day about relationships. I asked what his new boyfriend did for a living and he told me he was a cashier at the local hardware super center. I looked kind of surprised and he asked me what I was thinking. I told him I was a little surprised because he had always been with guys who had a career and not a job. He laughed and said the guy was going to school finishing up a degree and that he wouldn’t be a cashier for much longer. I asked him if that really mattered.
He told me it did. He expected his boyfriend to have a certain job and make a certain income. Granted most boyfriends don’t come prepackaged this way but in time and with some guidance he could get the boyfriend he needed.
I thought it was odd and started thinking about my relationship. My guy is younger than me and actually works a couple jobs. He is very happy in what he does and has plans to go to school and get a degree at some point.
I am not the kind of guy who needs my boyfriend to make a certain amount of money or have a certain job title. As long as he is happy in what he is doing, I am happy.
I did date a guy many years ago who worked for one of the electronics stores selling DVD’s. His big day was Tuesday when the new selections came in. I was ok at first until I realized this is all he wanted to do with his life. An opportunity came up for him to be manager of the department and he turned it down. This ambition poured over into his personal time and we didn’t go out for much longer.
So what are you? Are you the type of guy who dates guys based on their income potential or do you like guys who may not be where you are in life but are having a great time?