This is a conversation I had the other day…
A friend of mine called to tell me he had been dating this new guy he met. I said great for him and we talked about how great the guy was and how great the sex was. He went on to tell me they didn’t use condoms because they both assumed they were positive.
I asked what that meant, assumed they were positive. To me this means when you pick up a guy and have sex with him you assume he is positive and you take precautions. To him it meant that they could have unsafe sex because they both assumed they were positive so it wouldn’t matter.
I asked him why it was so difficult to find out if he was positive or not? He said no, that he could go down and get a test at the local AIDS project. I had recently seen the ad for the orasure so I mentioned that to him. I told him to go to the drug store and pick one up.
He called me back about a half hour later and said he got the test and he told the new BF to go get one too. I told him to let me know how it turned out.
He text back later and the test said he was negative. He was relieved. I asked about the new BF. He was waiting to hear from him. I went online and read about the test and it doesn’t guarantee that you are either positive or negative. If you come up positive further testing is needed but if you come up negative and continue with unsafe behaviors then testing on a regular basis is recommended.
I am assuming he was having unsafe encounters and that why he assumed he was positive. I don’t understand why people need to assume anything. Get the test and know your status.
Imagine this: you are online and you meet Mr. Rightnow. He says come on over and while you are at it pick up a couple orasures on your way. What you do after that is totally up to you.