So I caught a Speak Out piece here the other week about how this guy just hated anal, and to be honest I could kinda relate. Growing up I wasn’t too interested in anal play while alone, I was having much more fun with my penis, so I never really bothered. High school and college it was all, “Whoa that’s a great dick, you’re a top, right?” so I just enjoyed the rides. Now at 27 I’m realizing that “Top Only” dudes, myself WAY included just may not have had the opportunity to be locked up alone with a good sex toy long enough.
Course through the years I’ve tried bottoming for guys, even have with a few. It was fun but took time and was plenty painful, so I shied away. Though I’ve decided that this year I’d make an effort to explore my bottom side and get myself a little anal starter kit for someone with my level of experience.
Going into this, it really seems clear to me now that the fear of the “pain” of anal sex is really over exaggerated.
So for my little kit I ordered a few toys, these consisted of:
The Devi Big Glass Plug – It was on sale, it was glass and it was a great size. So I thought it would make a good first buttplug. I went with a width plug, opposed to length due to I wanted to work on stretching more in my first phase.
The Manticore Anal Plug – Again, on sale. On top of that, I didn’t want your typical beads and the beads seemed like a good size and I loved their details and textures.
And last and once I got it, not least, The Veiny Victor (Ultra-realistic suction cup dildo) – AGAIN, it was on sale. I’m broke a lot of the time, so starter toys on sale sounded like a win to me. It was bigger than most wimpy started dildos and of course had a suction cup, which is important in my search.
So as I said, I have bottomed for a few guys, maybe 6, some thin and long. Others thick and short, and few of the later, long and wide. Each time, it hurt. So that was a big drawback to me about letting a guys fuck me, ever. Also though to me personally anal is something I pulled out for guys I cared for, so only reason it was a good experience after the pain was because I trusted my lover and was having a good time.
So starting out, I kept that in mind. Staying relaxed because this was me, exploring and playing with my body. I did some anatomy research looking up in depth the prostate and such because, honestly, I hadn’t seen a diagram since high school and just wanted to see what where, cause what awesome feelings.
Also I already had it lying around, being a regular top who is responsible, but another MUST to all of this is LUBE. Obviously you can apply excess, but there really can’t be enough through the whole session, if it stops sliding or feels uncomfortable, never fear, lube is here.
And find one that works for you of course. Skin allergies can happen, as can internal ones. Be careful and safe when researching lube. I’m a fan of Gun Oil the water base, but to each their own.
So I take a very pragmatic and open stand about sex, obviously. But besides that, I’m gonna share my honest opinions with you all about these toys and my personal experiences with them. These are MY experiences and of course will vary from your own, I know my limits physically, know yours going into this.
Of course starting at the ground floor, fingering.
You can figure that out, I’m pretty sure.
But, don’t just think because you see guys fisting online fast that it stretches that fast. You don’t need to start with three, one can cut it just fine.
Speaking of cut though, make sure you trim and file those nails down, don’t wanna hurt yourself!
Then my toybox came, and of course I was raging a semi as I even opened it, everyone loves new toys.
So to stretch out and start my training I over the course of the next 3 weeks had sessions with either one, or sometimes all my toys. These sessions I keep at about an hour long each time, at least usually. At first though it was just me and the Devi.
First up the Devi. Sporting a nice Depok feel packaging wise it was a great weight, and even came with a little bag.
First real thing I noticed when I held this toy was how it felt in my hand. It was balanced and very sturdy and WIDE. Didn’t exactly know how wide in reality when I ordered it, but it was much more impressive as I closed my palm around it, the loop anchor being really nice sized to easily fit two finger tips in as well.
Lubing up was simple, inserting it was not.
Did I mention wide? or how inexperienced I was?
So there was some pain, but again, pain on my terms. I started to lie on my side and just start to probe myself with the tip.
My first try with the Devi, I didn’t get it in. I’ll be honest.
At it’s thickest, it can feel like a lot of pressure and hugely uncomfortable. that is until you push just a little bit more and take a deep breath.
Allowing that moment to relax, it then just pops into place. Literally, slides right where it needs to be, and WOW. Whether or not you believe in chakras or anything it says on the package, you know for sure now where you’re prostate is, spooning with you Devi.
Again, not being a total amateur, I started to do some Kegel stretches and I blew my load on the second time I used it, didn’t even really stroke much.
Truly I think that speaks for the toy about how awesome it is, and of course how amazing the human body is.
The Devi is an old reliable now. I can slide it in with a few minutes work. Nice and smooth, it slides into place very easily. Feels great, curves perfectly. The anchor ring is fantastic and very secure for me.
Once you learn what you’re doing, rotating it, altering the angle or position is just divine and it hits every spot it’s suppose to. While gentle tugging for the sensation was great, I wouldn’t recommend a fucking motion. This to is also very discreet and made absolutely no noise either.
This toy really teaches you how to move your muscles around. To clench your muscles and move them, to push and squeeze because there are dozens of different combinations of pushing and pulling you can do without touching it at all, giving you both hands to do with as you wish.
Removing it can be an experience too. Of course after you clean yourself up, steady your breathing and clean your load off the wall, you can remove the toy.
Unlike a dildo, a curved plug like this uses suction and muscle to stay in with the curve. Steady soft pushing and gentle steady pulling pressure from your hand will result in it easily popping out.
Clean up, is really simple. Antibacterial soap and water and boom, back to it’s hiding place till next time. Or maybe you’ll just keep it in, and go on an adventure?
Just my experience with this toy alone has taught me this.
I understand as a top, that I’ll never really know how to fuck like a porn star unless I know how to bottom too, Ying and Yang are only in balance if you understand both. So it is important to myself as a sexual being to really be open with sexual practices, so bottom training seemed like the logical next step. And I can say that in just the short amount of time I’ve had these toys I’ve learned a lot and am loving it more and more every day.
So this is a lot longer already than I thought, I guess I’ll write one blog on each of the other toys, due to taking a butt plug is one thing, taking beads and a sizable dildo is quite another.
So please though, if you have more question about toys or if you want more details, I’d be really happy to give them in the comments and will then add those questions to what I will answer with the next toys.
Have fun and be safe guys!