I recently moved to Denver from another Colorado small town after graduating college, and I have to say the nightlife is amazing; at least to what I was used to. There are so many places for gay men to go, whether it’s inside or outside, and the eye candy is definitely oh so sweet. Denver has a lot of cute, athletic guys to choose from, however, one reoccurring problem I’ve had with a certain type of guys in and out of cyberspace is my skin color.
At first I just thought I was overreacting. After all, no one is everyone’s type. After three months in living in this wonderful, sun soaked city, the no replies, “I’m not into black guys” and the one “eww, are you serious?” have become a reoccurring theme. As a dark skinned, black man living in an area that’s predominately… not African American… this has been an eye opener. Our society’s history is filled with torrid details of idealizing certain qualities and features, excluding anything that does not coexist, and this makes me wonder how far we’ve really come.
I’m not one to take things to heart, but this issue has really made my curious to what others preferences are, and the type of guys other’s have been with in the past. How diverse is your little black book? Have you run into this issue while living in a place as the minority?
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