(Hi guys, below is another reaction to a recent post about racism online. If you too would like to write on this blog about something you want to share or an opinion or a sex story etc, feel free to send us your text at blog @ adam4adam . com with your username)
I am a young mixed male living in Colorado Springs, Colorado and I cannot tell you how many times I have been turned down by men online simply because of my skin color. I try my best to make connections and to reach out to guys, I mean you can’t win a game if you don’t play right? So as hard as I try to play the game I always come up short for some reason. One day I sent a HELLO to a very cute guy that I thought would be cool to get to know but he replied to me saying, “omg please kill yourself you ugly monkey”. I was very confused because I have never heard someone call me a ugly monkey before and was wondering what I did to offend him. So I asked him, “what did I do to offend you?” I didn’t think saying hello was such a bad thing, but he replied one last time saying, “you are too dark and I do not like dark men only Whites and Latinos get to touch this”. When I went to “explain myself” he had blocked me. I was still very confused as to why my skin color meant so much to him. You would think he would want to at least be friends or at least associates, but he wouldn’t open his mind to that. That then makes me wonder how many more men are like him.
It is very sad that you can’t even make a good connection with someone without thinking if they will reply negatively because of your race. I understand preference, but come on why deprive yourself from a great human experience based on if you want to fuck them or not? Why make someone feel bad about their heritage and themselves because you have issues seeing past the outer exterior? I do get that everyone has customer service needs and requirements, but I hate to inform you, this is not Wal-Mart or Sears this is a dating site. A dating site is like a fantastic buffet you have all type from all countries just pick what you want. So again why does skin color mean so much to gay men? Can anyone answer this question logically?