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“Hi. I have HSV2 in my system. Yes, Herpes. I’m in my 50s and had it since my early 20s. During college I had an outbreak every 10 weeks, during finals. Now, outbreaks are very infrequent, only when I’m really stressed about something. No outbreaks for several years. Now, I’m getting an outbreak maybe once or twice max a year. I honestly doubt I’ve spread it. I’m told it can be spread even though there are no lesions. My doctor says there is a risk when you feel an outbreak coming or just when after an outbreak heals. The Valacyclovir doesn’t work during onset, which is when you are to start taking it.
Does anybody mention it to a potential sex partner when asked no STD’s? I’ve mentioned it only to have it as a deal breaker.
I’ve read online (so much for reliable sources) that as much as 50% of gay men carry it.
I don’t know where I’m going with this but I would just like to commiserate with those with the same affliction. Does this issue come up during sex negotiation? Really bad for self esteem. Does that mean I’m not “clean?” IMO, herpes carries the same stigma or even more stigma than HIV. Comments please.