If you’re not outgoing or eager for the spotlight, most of the time you’re considered awkward or pretentious. Being shy in the gay community can be one of the hardest things to deal with. Shyness is not always related to a lack of self-confidence, but it can be for these people. And trying to convince themselves that someone will like them for who they are can be a hard task. Because of this, they usually stay in their shell until they feel it is appropriate to talk.
Believe it or not, I’m a shy guy if I don’t feel 100% confident in a situation. Probably because of things that happened when I was younger. Whether it was my appearance that got me teased by others and left me alone without friends, or the fact that I was a gay boy who grew up in the 80s-90s at a time where it was not “ok” to be gay or because I was beaten up by my brother and dad…
Still today I keep some aftereffects of these injuries. I get very shy with men, whether they are straight or gay, even though I am not the skinny boy with pimples and big ears anymore. It is hard for me to look at them in the eyes, to date them, to talk with them. It is very hard for me to meet a gay man for a date….it is usually easier for sex, because it usually last 1-2 hours.
I am happy that there’s websites and apps like A4A, this allows me to chat with guys and be myself. I would probably be virgin if this wouldn’t exist, lol. At 32 years old, I only had 1 boyfriend in my life and it lasted 6 years.
Am I the only one that is that shy with men? Do you also have this “problem” ?