(This post was sent to us by one of our members, it is the member’s opinion, not A4A’s opinion.)
I got into a heated on-line discussion about the trans-man who won the Mr. Gay Philadelphia. It seems like this person is calling himself a gay man yet still have women parts. I’m all for people being themselves but I seriously had to defend the fact that I like my men with a penis.
These persons can call themselves male, a man, a gay man, all they want but calling yourself a gay man means something different to other people. It means you are homosexual which in most basic terms means you are having sex with someone of the same sex.
I was told I was closed minded and shallow for not allowing myself to be open to have sex with a gay man with a vagina. I had to remind these people that my sexual orientation was not something I could turn on and off.
I was then asked why a penis was so important, if you lost your penis tomorrow would you still be a man. To which I replied, if I lost my penis and replaced it with a vagina then I would be a woman but if I lost my penis and did not replace it with anything I would still be a man.
Again, it’s me who had to defend my sexual orientation and what I define as a gay man. If you are calling yourself a gay man and you have a vagina and you have sex with men, gay men or not, you are having heterosexual sex.
Just more reason I believe the T needs to be taken out of LGBT and given their own T. Their goal is not our goal, asking gay men to have sex with the opposite sex to fulfill their life changes in not a gay thing. It’s anti-gay.
Before you start throwing transphobia at me, like I’ve said, I am not asking anyone to disclose anything about their genitalia, but I prefer my men with a penis.