I’m very curious how others feel about this topic. I live in a college town, but we are not a “major” city. It’s not uncommon to chat someone up at a brew house and find that there are several personal connections to others in the community.
While I am not “out,” I have shared my personal preferences with several friends, and feel fine with their consideration of my privacy. However, when looking for a bit of fun – on A4A, I become very concerned about hosting a stranger in my home.
Years ago, in the care-free college days, I had a hookup come over while my roommates were gone for the weekend. What I expected was a casual romp of one-time fun, but the guy continued emailing. I kept up the conversation, telling him it was a one-time thing, but he would not take no for an answer. He showed up unannounced at my apartment a couple times, and the ultimate straw was him coming to my work (tracked me down online – scary). I threatened him with police action, and he finally got the message.
The Story “Gotta Love Those Young Black Men” got my thinking about another group stereotyped with pro or con prejudices: Ginger
I have to ask, whats up with all these guys cruising and stalking us Gingers? I don’t get it.
Ok, lets look at the facts: Sure the red hair is sort of hot on a YOUNG guy. Mine has changed colors over the years. I was a brilliant fire red in my teens, auburn as an adult, and now at 50 dulling to a weird rust red with gray. (Thank you Clairol for saving me. A touch of ash blond – and it grabs the red pigment and I’m red again.)
Hey guys, hope you all had great weekend! Today I’d like to talk about a delicate subject: Cross dressing.
Cross dressing refers to the act of wearing clothing and other accoutrements commonly associated with the opposite sex. The term “cross-dressing” denotes an action or a behavior without attributing or implying any specific causes for that behavior. Some people automatically connect cross-dressing behavior to transgender identity or “Human sexuality” , “Sexual fetishism”, “Homosexuality” behavior, but the term itself does not imply any motives. Some straight men cross dress sometimes, so it is not necessarily related to the gay world.
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I live in the Tampa Bay area (West-Central Florida, USA, for the International, or geographically clueless among you): an area of about 4 million residents. I’ve lived here all my life, and seen good times and bad — both generally, and in the “gay subculture”. I very much enjoy the fact that my city has been open and accepting of LBGT for well over a decade, and now hosts the largest Gay Pride celebrations in the SE USA!
Lately, I’ve been getting “hits” on my A4A profile from self-labeled “bisexual” dudes – usually young (all under 25, some under 20) – and the gist of their message is “Do you want to suck my cock? I don’t want to even touch you, I just want someone to suck my cock. Interested?” What prompted this blog entry for discussion is that I recently received THREE such messages in a single day! (It actually prompted me to check my profile to see if I had inadvertently suggested I would be open to this!)
Personal ads have been around since the dawn of the newspaper. From GWM in lonelyhearts print to Craigslist and every dating site imaginable, the personal ad has been through a great evolution. But have we reached such a point that it’s stopped being a personal ad? Has an advertisement for you become a list of demands?
The keywords in there should be, “About yourself”, but today, as the times have changed and a generation of entitlement has set in, we’ve strayed into making it about what we’re searching for, not why they should pick us.
The whole point of advertising is to sell a product. If Mad Men has taught us anything, it’s that style and sexy can be made to fit ANYTHING. With the right use of words, photographs and statistics, it’s all about branding and showmanship. But the root of it all is self confidence and self worth.