Rejection is something we deal with every day. What we need to do is learn to deal with it and not take it so personally.
Let’s say you are cruising on line and you come across Mr. Right Now. You read his profile and it’s like he was looking for you all this time. You read more and are sure he is talking about you. You send him an email and wait, very sure he will read your profile and get back to you. You wait and wait and wait.
Finally you see he has looked at your profile, read your email and still hasn’t responded. You wait a little while longer until you see he has deleted your email.
I have to admit there are things that I would do or say before I cum that I probably wouldn’t afterwards.
For example, let’s say you are online and you come across Mr. Rightnow but you instantly feel this strong connection for him. You get to chatting and you both are on the same page, you make out you kiss and you think this is the best thing that has happened to me in a long time. You start to have sex, it’s amazing, you cum and then you can’t wait to get the hell out of there. What is that all about?
10 minutes earlier you were thinking this is guy is the one. Now you have to pretend you still feel this way as you are thanking god you didn’t have him come over to your place. You get dressed, leave and ignore all calls and messages.
This is a conversation I had the other day…
A friend of mine called to tell me he had been dating this new guy he met. I said great for him and we talked about how great the guy was and how great the sex was. He went on to tell me they didn’t use condoms because they both assumed they were positive.
I asked what that meant, assumed they were positive. To me this means when you pick up a guy and have sex with him you assume he is positive and you take precautions. To him it meant that they could have unsafe sex because they both assumed they were positive so it wouldn’t matter.
I asked him why it was so difficult to find out if he was positive or not? He said no, that he could go down and get a test at the local AIDS project. I had recently seen the ad for the orasure so I mentioned that to him. I told him to go to the drug store and pick one up.
I was talking to a friend of mine the other day about relationships. I asked what his new boyfriend did for a living and he told me he was a cashier at the local hardware super center. I looked kind of surprised and he asked me what I was thinking. I told him I was a little surprised because he had always been with guys who had a career and not a job. He laughed and said the guy was going to school finishing up a degree and that he wouldn’t be a cashier for much longer. I asked him if that really mattered.
He told me it did. He expected his boyfriend to have a certain job and make a certain income. Granted most boyfriends don’t come prepackaged this way but in time and with some guidance he could get the boyfriend he needed.
We all know the scenario, two guys who have been in a relationship for some time are having problems and they decide to break up. For whatever reason one of them can’t move out and they end up being roommates.
They lay the ground rules down and things are moving along nicely. They go to dinner together, movies, hangout on the weekends. They do everything they use to do together except at the end of the day instead of going to one bedroom they go to their own rooms.