This is a conversation I had the other day…
A friend of mine called to tell me he had been dating this new guy he met. I said great for him and we talked about how great the guy was and how great the sex was. He went on to tell me they didn’t use condoms because they both assumed they were positive.
I asked what that meant, assumed they were positive. To me this means when you pick up a guy and have sex with him you assume he is positive and you take precautions. To him it meant that they could have unsafe sex because they both assumed they were positive so it wouldn’t matter.
I asked him why it was so difficult to find out if he was positive or not? He said no, that he could go down and get a test at the local AIDS project. I had recently seen the ad for the orasure so I mentioned that to him. I told him to go to the drug store and pick one up.
I was talking to a friend of mine the other day about relationships. I asked what his new boyfriend did for a living and he told me he was a cashier at the local hardware super center. I looked kind of surprised and he asked me what I was thinking. I told him I was a little surprised because he had always been with guys who had a career and not a job. He laughed and said the guy was going to school finishing up a degree and that he wouldn’t be a cashier for much longer. I asked him if that really mattered.
He told me it did. He expected his boyfriend to have a certain job and make a certain income. Granted most boyfriends don’t come prepackaged this way but in time and with some guidance he could get the boyfriend he needed.
We all know the scenario, two guys who have been in a relationship for some time are having problems and they decide to break up. For whatever reason one of them can’t move out and they end up being roommates.
They lay the ground rules down and things are moving along nicely. They go to dinner together, movies, hangout on the weekends. They do everything they use to do together except at the end of the day instead of going to one bedroom they go to their own rooms.
Let’s say you are on A4A on a Saturday night looking for Mr. Rightnow. Someone catches your eye so you exchange details and you head over to his place. You guys exchange a couple text messages on your way over and all is good.
You walk in and start chatting and he asks you if you want something to drink, water is fine you say and you guys continue your conversation. 45 minutes goes by and you realize there isn’t going to be anything sexual happening tonight. You wrap up the conversation and say you need to head out.
I was talking with a friend of mine about this situation and his first response was “Fuck, not one of those guys that wants to chat” I asked him what he meant by that.
Let’s say you have been dating someone for a while. Things are going great. Your boyfriend gets up to take his dog out for a walk and leaves his phone behind.
A text message comes through and without thinking you pick the phone up and see it’s from an ex-boyfriend. The message is simple, something like: “hey, what’s up?” You know the history these two have had and are kind of surprised they are chatting.
Your boyfriend comes back from walking the dogs and you tell him a message came through from the guy and you ask him about it. He tells you they ran into each other at the gym and the guy apologized for being a jerk and asked him out. He turned the guy down and thought that was the end of it.