Most of the time my brain is working on overdrive. I’m currently in school working on my second degree. My first degree was Music Performance, focusing on piano and flute (all jokes are welcome) and composition. As it turns out, if you want to play in a symphony all you have to do is audition and if you want to be a super star or the next Beyonce…it’s a lot more about who you know in the industry and having enough money to hire an agent. So now I’m going to school for languages, French and Mandarin Chinese specifically, in order to work in an Embassy, military contracting or business translations. I speak four languages at the moment and spend my free time writing music and making CDs (mostly as a hobby and when I’m too cheap to buy actual gifts) so my brain is always working.
On occasion I focus my mental prowess into a deeply insightful, poignant and altogether important question: If I woke up tomorrow and had suddenly acquired a super power, which one would it be!!?!?
For gay people, the subject of faith can cause an uproar of emotions. A lot of us laugh at the Christians with the picket signs at the Pride Parades, or just shake our heads at any gathering of the Westboro Baptist Church. The idea of religion (whether Christian or other) can be a point of contention with many gay people who have been bullied, attacked or had relationships suffer because of religious people. As I said to God once a long time ago, “It’s not you I have a problem with, really…it’s your people!”
The problem a lot of gay people have is that we do find ourselves, generally, searching for what lies beyond this physical world that we live in, but also find ourselves cast away from those who might give us answers. The idea of a loving God isn’t absurd, it’s just the expression of that God by His people that seems to mess up the message. In order to just get to “God loves me” we have to go through a spiritual Tough Mudder course of bigotry, hypocrisy, anger and holy curses just to get to the misinterpretation of scripture, then the misapplication of the misinterpretation…and by the time we get the end it’s almost like “THIS is religion!? You can keep it!”
(This question has been sent to my mailbox from a member. I am not a specialist, but I’m sure we have health specialist or power bottoms that will know the answer to this. See below.)
I don’t know when we started saying this…or writing it, really since it appeared on profiles all over the apps and internet websites that we use for “dating”. It must have originated somewhere, and like all things PC it seemed a way to make something a little uncomfortable feel a little more easy to stomach.
“If you are fat, ugly, Asian or black don’t message me. Sorry, just my preference”.
Statements like these confuse me. How could someone NOT get angry over a statement like that? It’s like me showing up to a family dinner at your house and saying, “I’m not sure I want to eat this because your fat, ugly mother cooked it. Hey, don’t get mad it’s just my preference”. The statement itself is not some magical band-aid that suddenly makes everything better. The words are hateful and cruel. Hateful and cruel things are specifically geared to hurt people and cause damage.
Hey guys, I was on A4A yesterday and this guy came to talk to me. Beautiful, sexy, muscular, hairy chest, intelligent, handsome…I mean the kind of guy you can’t find in Montreal! He wanted to meet. I didn’t want to meet yesterday so suggested we could meet today (Friday). He said “ok”.
Today, I messaged him, he doesn’t reply. Then I asked him why he was not replying. He answered ” I was turned off by your profession”! I was shocked. Last night I had told him I was a stylist/personal shopper and also social media/blog director at A4A. I remembered I looked in his profile the day before and could read “profession/age/race irrelevant”. So I went back to him and pointed that out. To be honest I was pissed by his comment. I don’t personally define myself with my work. I am a 32 years old gay dude, I work, I travel, I love animals, I love sex, I love fashion and many other things and my work is only something I do, but it’s not me. It’s not my “life goal” !
My point is, am I the only one who is tired of that bullshit? We spend time trying to find a man for sex or for a relation, but then when everything works and there is a fit and then I hear crazy shit like this, I’m very disappointed by gay men. So what I’m saying is “Man Up” and be real! If you write something in your profile, act accordingly. And don’t make people lose their time with such stupidity!