24 Oct 2014

Speak Out : Should I let it go?

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(This story was submitted by a member of A4A. If you would like to have other member’s opinion on a subject or your story, feel free to send it to me at blog@adam4adam.com. Thanks, Dave)


So I have this little dilemma. I am in a relationship where my partner, which I love very much, has this very annoying thing. Every time that I do something wrong he loves to rub it in my face, I don’t have a problem if he just does it once, but he actually does it for the remaining of the day and he brings it up every time he has a chance; is getting to the point that I have to tell him that I don’t want to talk to him any more; the worst part is that he blames me for me getting upset, and to make matters even worst he begins his sarcastic routine of apologizing for everything; and when I say everything I mean it, the only thing he doesn’t apologize for is for the air I breathe; is very obnoxious.

An example of this happened the other day. He wants to record us having sex, which I strongly refuse to do it. Well he; and I don’t know how and for the same reasons I don’t want to be film having sex; found a video of me having sex with a guy before I meet him; PS a video recording I didn’t authorized, and a whole different thing that I will have to take care of; now he is insinuating that I have lied to him and that I like/don’t mind being recorded; which I do mind I don’t want something like that going around the internet, which I have explain that to him plenty.

23 Oct 2014

Speak Out : An Hour With Oprah

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Hey guys!

This morning I watched this student-led interview at Stanford Graduate School of Business on youtube in which Oprah Winfrey shares seminal moments of her career journey and the importance of listening to your instincts. Winfrey also offers advice to students on how to find their calling: “Align your personality with your purpose, and no one can touch you” she said.

But all these suggestions are not only applicable to business, they are applicable to life too. In your love life, with your friends, family, your work, the way you live your entire life.

I thought this would be interesting for you to watch the video as well. Some of us sometimes struggle because we have problems with our parents not accepting us or our work colleagues, we fear rejection, we even reject ourselves. But we are strong on the inside, we are humans, whatever colour our skin is, whatever our sexuality is…. We are all able to do great things, like Oprah :)

Check it out below, it is an hour long, but definitely a must see! Let me know your thoughts and have a wonderful day!



6 Oct 2014

Speak Out : Date Uh?

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I met a guy at my gym a while ago. We added each other on FB and we chatted and texted for over 6 months. We even met several times casually and one time for sex. I suggested to him that we should date and start being lovers since we had this great connection. He was hesitant but liked the idea to go slow and see where it would lead us.

He is a journalist and was assigned to Paris for one month. I was a bit pissed but what can I do?! We kept on chatting on FB and texting each other we even “camed” on Skype. When he came back I suggested to meet for dinner and I added ” if you are still single ” …

To my surprise, he was no longer single… But what happened in Paris or since he came back? He said he would like us to stay friends and see each other for fun etc.

“Will you still talk to me?” he said.



Ever had a bad experience like this?


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2 Oct 2014

Speak Out : Why So Many Gays Do Coke?

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“Why So Many Gays Do Coke?”

I don’t take drugs so I am not in the best position to answer and I did a big cleanup in my friends recently too. I don’t want to be associated with people who are doing coke from Monday to Sunday and every time I do a little casual dinner at home. Last week, I invited 2 friends and they were in my bathroom all night doing lines after lines. I prepared a beautiful healthy dinner and they barely ate it, because they were not hungry (because of coke). I wanted to kick them out and found them very disrespectful. Last time I was inviting them…

I open my A4A app and all the hot guys I was clicking on were into PNP or other crazy drug shit. Where are the “healthy” gay guys? Where are the guys into nature, sports and fitness? I feel like many gay guys are hiding behind these drugs to be “cool” or to be part of the group or to raise their self esteem… I don’t get it!

What’s your thoughts on this?


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19 Sep 2014

Speak Out : Are You Single By Choice?

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Many of my friends and even some of you, asked me “why are you single”?

… Well first of all, after my last relationship, I was fucked up, I even had to go see a psychologist. So I didn’t want to start a new relationship before I was “fixed”. 4 years later now, I am ok and I think I am single by choice. I never had the urge to be in a couple just to be in a couple…I rather be free and do whatever I want and when I want than being caught in a relationship. Of course sometimes I’m scared of getting old single and I miss the cuddles and doing activities with a lover. But I’m not willing to compromise anything easily.

I told you few weeks ago that I started seeing this pilot, but I am also seeing a police officer. I am not committed to any of these guys and we don’t “go out” together. I just see them more than regular friends and I have some sex with the police officer, not the pilot (yet).

I am taking things slow, because I don’t know if I love them enough to go out with any of them. Around me I see “friends” going out with other guys and then breaking up and then matching with another 1 month after….I don’t know how they do that?! I need to know the person very well before being able to call him a “lover”.

Anyways, let me know your thoughts on this and let me know if you are attached or single and if it is by choice?


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