Adam4Adam Blog http://blog.adam4adam.com Blog page of the website adam4adam.com Fri, 21 Nov 2014 15:24:41 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.9.3 A4A : Preference Or Prejudice? http://blog.adam4adam.com/2014/11/a4a-preference-or-prejudice-2/ http://blog.adam4adam.com/2014/11/a4a-preference-or-prejudice-2/#comments Fri, 21 Nov 2014 15:24:41 +0000 http://blog.adam4adam.com/?p=8889 After 2 blog posts that got lot’s of reaction, I wanted to re-post a very popular post about this delicate subject of racism, preferences, prejudice….

Read below and comment!

 

What is Adam4Adam? To an outsider the site may look like nothing more than a place for gay men to find other gay men to play, but once you are a member the site can become much more.

Over time, fuck buddies often become long lasting friends, long distance friendships can be made and maintained as we cruise profiles and chat with people in far-away places, and life partners can …

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After 2 blog posts that got lot’s of reaction, I wanted to re-post a very popular post about this delicate subject of racism, preferences, prejudice….

Read below and comment!

 

What is Adam4Adam? To an outsider the site may look like nothing more than a place for gay men to find other gay men to play, but once you are a member the site can become much more.

Over time, fuck buddies often become long lasting friends, long distance friendships can be made and maintained as we cruise profiles and chat with people in far-away places, and life partners can be found as we get to know one another in a more personal way. But for many, especially when first joining the site, membership is about marketing yourself as a sexual object to find a match.

Marketing yourself and seeking others based on how they advertise themselves takes skill and honestly the more precise and accurately you describe who you are, your physical characteristics and what you are looking for in another person the better your chances of finding your match and finding him quickly.

We all have preferences in men, tall, dark, and handsome – short, stout, and average, when it comes to what turns us on we are all very individual.

Every once in a while our support team will receive an email from a member saying that they find a specific profile to be offensive because it says something like, ‘masculine Black men only’ or “Whites to the front of the line” and even “no fats or fems”.

Knowing the site is a place for men to find other men that may be able to fulfill a very specific sexual desire because they fit into a certain group or have a specific physical attribute, is stating what you are looking for bluntly appropriate?

Is it prejudice or just a benign statement of a person’s preference to say something like “Black men only” or “no fats or  fems”?

If it is prejudice, how is stating your preference for a specific race different then stating your preference for hair color or dick size? And, if stating things like your racial preference is actually a sign of prejudice, would you want to know that a member is prejudice before you start talking with them?

So what’s the deal?

White / black, long / short, blonde / red, how do you state your preferences without being offensive and how do you perceive others when they bluntly state what they are looking for?

 

Dave

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Speak Out : Ginger, Black, Grey….Whatever! http://blog.adam4adam.com/2014/11/speak-out-ginger/ http://blog.adam4adam.com/2014/11/speak-out-ginger/#comments Thu, 20 Nov 2014 16:43:53 +0000 http://blog.adam4adam.com/?p=8882 ginger

The Story “Gotta Love Those Young Black Men” got my thinking about another group stereotyped with pro or con prejudices: Ginger

I have to ask, whats up with all these guys cruising and stalking us Gingers?  I don’t get it.

Ok, lets look at the facts: Sure the red hair is sort of hot on a YOUNG guy.  Mine has changed colors over the years.  I was a brilliant fire red in my teens, auburn as an adult, and now at 50 dulling to a weird rust red with gray.  (Thank you Clairol for saving me.  A touch

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The Story “Gotta Love Those Young Black Men” got my thinking about another group stereotyped with pro or con prejudices: Ginger

I have to ask, whats up with all these guys cruising and stalking us Gingers?  I don’t get it.

Ok, lets look at the facts: Sure the red hair is sort of hot on a YOUNG guy.  Mine has changed colors over the years.  I was a brilliant fire red in my teens, auburn as an adult, and now at 50 dulling to a weird rust red with gray.  (Thank you Clairol for saving me.  A touch of ash blond – and it grabs the red pigment and I’m red again.)

The white skin is rather sexy as hell when your in your 20s. For myself, if I look at the sun I burn, peel, and return to my natural vampire white. What is a tan for ginger?  Just various shades of red.  If I see a ginger with a tan – I know – its painted on.  Unless we are diligent about moisturizer (which most men are not) by the time we hit 50 we look like dry rot shoe leather.

People make a big deal about white guys liking black men. There are just as many black and white men cruising gingers just for our hair color.  No one says anything about that.  Speaking only for myself as a ginger: what is up with that?

tngemini on adam4adam

 

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Stories : Gotta Love Those Younger Black Men http://blog.adam4adam.com/2014/11/stories-gotta-love-those-younger-black-men/ http://blog.adam4adam.com/2014/11/stories-gotta-love-those-younger-black-men/#comments Wed, 19 Nov 2014 18:38:23 +0000 http://blog.adam4adam.com/?p=8875 tumblr_mnjgsxzIeQ1rbpwtbo1_500

I’ve always had this thing for younger black men.  I grew up near an air force base in Michigan where there plenty of black airmen running about and driving me wild.  I will always regret when I was walking down a road one day on my daily walk when a hunky, cute black airman asked if I wanted a ride.  I froze and shook my head no.  What can I say?  I was young and not too bright.

 

Through the years, I’ve traveled throughout the world and encountered plenty of young black men.  I just love the color and …

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I’ve always had this thing for younger black men.  I grew up near an air force base in Michigan where there plenty of black airmen running about and driving me wild.  I will always regret when I was walking down a road one day on my daily walk when a hunky, cute black airman asked if I wanted a ride.  I froze and shook my head no.  What can I say?  I was young and not too bright.

 

Through the years, I’ve traveled throughout the world and encountered plenty of young black men.  I just love the color and texture of their skin, the contrast between their darkness and my lightness, and, of course, their deep voices, their big cocks.  They have the most luscious huge cocks, and I haven’t met a black cock I didn’t like — or didn’t like me.

 

I was traveling for work in Chicago a few years ago, staying in a great hotel overlooking beautiful Lake Michigan.  Black men were everywhere I went in Chicago:  running the shoreline, hurrying to work, going about their business — driving me wild.  I swear I had an erection for the whole six weeks I was in Chicago as the cute young black men were everywhere.

 

One night, alone in my hotel room, I decided to go online as I was in a pent-up frenzy with these black men driving me crazy.  Out of the blue, a younger black man started chatting with me.  He asked my age and I said that I was in my later 40s.  He was in his mid-20s and he loved older men, he said.  He was just a couple of miles away and said he could come to the hotel room, if I wanted.  I saw his photo, and he looked absolutely gorgeous. I said, sure, come on over.  Anticipation entered ever pore of my body.  A gorgeous six-foot four-inch 20-something black man was going to be over soon, I hoped.  You never know with online hook-ups, so one can never be sure, but ten minutes later, there he was.

 

Well, let me tell you, his picture on the net didn’t do him justice.  He was one of the most gorgeous men I had ever seen in my life.  Muscles everywhere with bare arms twice as big as mine.  I’m sure now that I had to slap my jaw shut when he answered the door.

 

“Come in, come in,” I stammered.  “Welcome.”

 

I was actually shaking as here was my dream younger black guy in front of me.  I thought for sure that he would make some excuse and leave — as I am lean and strong but nothing muscular like this and could not hold a candle in looks to this black Adonis.  But, thank my lucky stars that day, he stayed. He introduced himself as Marcus.

 

Marcus and I sat on the couch, and chatted about my work and his (he was a musician) and Chicago and my smal town and my love of younger black guys, which he found amusing.

 

I couldn’t help but look at his crotch — naturally — and my jaw opened wide again:  I could see the outline of what looked like a foot-long tree trunk in his pants.

 

“Oh my god,” I said, as I looked down.  “Is that what I think it is?”

 

This wonderfully deep-throated reply came from him:  “Oh, yeah,  That’s why I am mainly a bottom these days, ’cause most guys can’t handle it.”

 

What the hell, I thought.  What’s wrong with gay men?  He explained that almost all gay guys would take one look at it and say, no way was it going up their ass.

 

Well, curiosity got the best of me.  I unzipped his fly and reached inside his underwear and pulled out the biggest and thickest and most beautful cock I’ve ever seen.

 

The cock was a foot long — 12 inches! — and it was thick as a beer can.  You know how cartoon animals eyes bug out when they see something crazy or wild?  Well, those were my cartoon eyes.  My whole body was shaking.  This was the dream cock I had been waiting for all my life.

 

“Well, I don’t know about other guys,”  I told Marcus, “but this guy is going to be fucked by that cock.”

 

We undressed and went into the bedroom.  He was magnificent to look at.  He could be a porn star with the muscles and good looks and that unbelievably huge and thick cock.  I was enchanted to no end and had pre-cum coming from the tip of my cock just looking at his cock.

 

I told him that the only way I could possibly take that cock up my tight white hole was for him to lay down and then I would sit on it, slowly.  He lay down, and I sucked as much of the cock I could, not even able to get a third of it in my mouth as it was so huge.  My jaw hurt in just the couple of minutes I was sucking him.

 

“You sure you want to try this?”  Marcus asked.

 

“Fuck, yeah,”  I replied.

 

I lubed up my asshole and his cock better than I had ever lubed anything in my life.  I stood above his cock, facing him, and then we kissed.  Oh, good, he was a kisser and for that I was grateful.  And what a kisser he was, perfect molding of our mouths together.  I took a deep breath and impaled myself on the first inch of the cock.

 

I thought I was going to pass out due to its thickness.  Marcus laughed and said I could change my mind and I could fuck him instead.  I said no way.

 

After a minute of getting adjusted to that first inch, I took another deep breath and took another inch.  We kept kissing, so I wouldn’t scream out in pain.  Inch by inch by inch, I would adjust my asshole for that monstrous cock with tears running down my face.  My shaking turned into shuddering when I had six inches of the cock in me.

 

“Easy does it,” Marcus told me.  “Just another six inches to go.”  I laughed — and cried at the same time.

 

It took an hour, but I would take another cock inch, hold my breath, shake a bit, and hold it there for about ten minutes and kiss and kiss Marcus’s lovely lips and caress his tongue with mine, so I could get used to the newest inch of his cock in me.  He was so patient, thank goodness.

 

At nine inches,  without any warning, I came.  I had not even been touching my cock when the thing spurted.  Marcus’s monstrosity had hit my sphincter just right and I came in five big spurts on Marcus’s broad, hairless chest.

 

“Three inches to go,”  I said.  Marcus took my cum from his chest and drank it.

 

“Yum, yum,”  he said.  “I’ve got a week’s worth of cum and it’s going in your tight white hole, whenever you’re ready.”

 

Finally, our mouths touching, tears streaming down my face, my ass feeling like it could not be stretched any further, I took Marcus’s final inch and I could feel that he was in balls deep.  It hurt like hell; I had never felt pain like this before.  I was afraid of passing out from the pain.

 

“Push,” I told him.  “Fuck me for all you’re worth, I don’t care how much it hurts.”  Yeah, I am a glutton for punishment, but I had to see what if felt like to be fucked by 12 inches of cock.

 

He thrust as hard and fast as he could, my arms holding onto his muscled arms, my ass without any feeling anymore, just wanting that foot-long beer-can-thick cock to cum in my hole.  After two minutes of thrusting when I didn’t think I could take it any more, he finally moaned and out shot spurt after spurt after spurt in my hole for two minutes.  It felt like a half quart of cum was coming from that monster of a cock.  I felt every twitch and twinge of that cock for fifteen minutes before it finally got soft and slithered out my hole.

 

I was exhausted and could barely breathe.  Would I be able to walk ever again, I wondered aloud half-jokingly to Marcus.  He laughed and said there were a few guys who had to spend a day or even a week in bed after he had fucked them.

 

We showered and kissed the whole time while cleaning up.  I would sneak a peak at that huge cock in the shower and wonder, wow — that big thing was in me, it was IN me, the whole thing was in me.  I will never forget this and took photographs in my mind of that luscious cock.

 

We kissed, and he left.  I never saw him again, but I will never forget him and that cock, the largest and most beautiful that has ever been in my ass.

 

thaddeus172000 on Adam4Adam

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News : Gay Man Died After Being Beaten http://blog.adam4adam.com/2014/11/news-gay-man-died-after-being-beaten/ http://blog.adam4adam.com/2014/11/news-gay-man-died-after-being-beaten/#comments Tue, 18 Nov 2014 19:39:49 +0000 http://blog.adam4adam.com/?p=8870 homophobia-739571

(This post was written by one of our members, if you wish to submit a text too, send it to us blog@adam4adam.com)

Some of you may have heard about the guy in North Carolina that was beaten and set on fire in a hotel last Saturday night after leaving a club with a guy. The Advocate and the Q Notes has been posting about it. His name was Stephen White and I remember seeing him at the clubs through out the years. I never met him or knew him personally.

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(This post was written by one of our members, if you wish to submit a text too, send it to us blog@adam4adam.com)

Some of you may have heard about the guy in North Carolina that was beaten and set on fire in a hotel last Saturday night after leaving a club with a guy. The Advocate and the Q Notes has been posting about it. His name was Stephen White and I remember seeing him at the clubs through out the years. I never met him or knew him personally.

I was shocked to learn of the attack on Tuesday when my partner texted me about it. I had heard about the fire at the hotel on the news over the weekend but never put two and two together.

Two days ago it was announced that he died as a result of his injuries. I am so sad for his family and friends and so sad for our community. It’s so sad to think that a gay man could have caused such harm to another gay man. It almost seems like a scene from the movies.

This tragedy has made me realize how lucky I have been with all the hookups I’ve made in the past. I hope this has made a lot of people in my area rethink things and be more careful. There were many times that I could have been a victim of an attack, mugged, raped or worse.

Next time you go out to the club, answer that message from a social site of a guy wanting to meet, make sure you know exactly who you’re meeting and let someone know where you are going. We always think that stuff like this can’t happen to us and I’m sure Stephen thought the same thing but the sad reality is that it can happen to anyone. Take care out there.

You can also read A4A safety tips here!

Jason

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Gay Stuff : Cross Dressing http://blog.adam4adam.com/2014/11/gay-stuff-cross-dressing/ http://blog.adam4adam.com/2014/11/gay-stuff-cross-dressing/#comments Mon, 17 Nov 2014 20:03:39 +0000 http://blog.adam4adam.com/?p=8866 cross

 

Hey guys, hope you all had  great weekend! Today I’d like to talk about a delicate subject: Cross dressing.

Cross dressing refers to the act of wearing clothing and other accoutrements commonly associated with the opposite sexThe term “cross-dressing” denotes an action or a behavior without attributing or implying any specific causes for that behavior. Some people automatically connect cross-dressing behavior to transgender identity or “Human sexuality” , “Sexual fetishism”, “Homosexuality” behavior, but the term itself does not imply any motives. Some straight men cross dress sometimes, so it is not necessarily related to the gay world.

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Hey guys, hope you all had  great weekend! Today I’d like to talk about a delicate subject: Cross dressing.

Cross dressing refers to the act of wearing clothing and other accoutrements commonly associated with the opposite sexThe term “cross-dressing” denotes an action or a behavior without attributing or implying any specific causes for that behavior. Some people automatically connect cross-dressing behavior to transgender identity or “Human sexuality” , “Sexual fetishism”, “Homosexuality” behavior, but the term itself does not imply any motives. Some straight men cross dress sometimes, so it is not necessarily related to the gay world.

From what I’ve noticed around me, some guys like to cross dress for different reasons. They might want to explore their feminine side, they might have female underwear fetishes, fabric fetishes (spandex, nylon etc), some don’t feel good being a man, therefore they cross dress and sometimes even transition to become a transexual. I personally know a transexual (male to female) who was married to a lady (they were both straight) with kids, but the male was not feeling great in his skin, he felt he was a woman inside, even though he was attracted to his wife. So he was cross dressing and few years later, decided to become a woman (or transexual). They are still together and very happy. It might be hard to understand, but we don’t need to…it is something that belongs to them only.

I’ve noticed that within our community, many gay males are judging cross dressers, I’ve heard things like: “they are too fem”, “you’re a man so be a man” etc etc. Whatever the reasons, we can’t judge them. We don’t know them, or where they come from. Sexuality and genders are intrinsic to each individual.

I did cross dress few times myself and many of my friends know. I’m an open book, I even posted photos of me on Facebook to show them how hot I was:)

Have you ever cross dress before? What’s your opinion on the subject?

Have a great day everyone!

Dave

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